You're a Badass
"Appreciate how special you are"
There will never be anyone exactly like you. You have special gifts and talents that are individual to you, nobody will use theirs quite the same way you use yours. You have your own unique perspective of the world to share with everyone, don't waste it.
"Drown yourself in affirmations"
Figure out which affirmations you need to hear the most and repeat them all day to rewire your brain. Write them on Post-it notes and stick them around the house. Write them 10 times upon waking and before going to bed. And you can't just say it, you have to feel it and want it and get worked up by it in order for it to work.
"Do things you love"
"When you constantly deny yourself the people, food, things, and experiences that make you feel the most alive, that sends a pretty lousy message home." We're all busy and if you find yourself saying things like "I love going out to see live music! I can't remember the last time I did it", make time for yourself. "If you put everyone else's needs first, start putting yours up front." If you want to enjoy your life take care of yourself as if you're the most awesome person you've ever met.
"Find a replacement"
"Notice the verbiage that runs through your mind when you're being the most heinous to yourself and come up with a new-and-improved response." Replace negative thoughts and behaviours that are rooted on an outdated truth about yourself with behaviours and thoughts that are based on who you want to be and who you truly are without all the self-deprecating stuff.
"Ditch the self-deprecating humour"
"If you're one of those people who falls back on making fun of yourself, every hour on the hour, not only are you basically begging people to think you're a loser, but you're begging yourself to think you're a loser. It's like hitting yourself over and over with a crowbar. Why on earth would you do that to your awesome self? What you tell yourself on a daily basis is more powerful than you know."
"Let the love in"
Accept compliments instead of shushing them away, just say "thank you", period. And take care of your body. We need our bodies more than they need us. "Say nice things about your body, dress it up, and take it out. Give it hot sex, luxurious baths, and massages. Move it, stretch it, nourish it, hydrate it, pay attention to it - The better our bodies feel, the happier and more productive we are."
"Don't compare yourself to others"
"Comparison is the fastest way to take all the fun out of life. It's none of your business what other people are doing. All that matters is that you're enjoying yourself and pleased with what you're creating. It's precisely your uniqueness that makes you awesome - deciding that someone else's uniqueness is better than your own isn't exactly being your own best buddy about things."
Everybody is born with the ability to screw up and make spectacular mistakes, so don't flatter yourself, screwing up is not your special skill. "Guilt, shame and self-criticism are some of the most destructive forces in your life, which is why forgiving yourself is one of the most powerful." Every time you find yourself going over something that makes you feel bad about yourself, say to yourself:
"Holding on to my bad feelings about this is doing nothing but harming me and everyone else, and preventing me from enjoying my life fully. I am an awesome person. I choose to enjoy my life. I choose to let this go."
Because it is the Holy Grail of Happiness and you deserve it.